Why Do Daddies Leave?

Human daddies are not perfect. Sometimes they leave. It is NEVER the child/ren’s fault though. Children tend to believe that they did something to make mommy and daddy mad at each other. This is not true.

Mommy and Daddy Still Love Us

When daddy leaves, it’s because mommy and daddy are not getting along. It is not because the child has done anything wrong. Human daddies are, well, human. There might be things the child does not understand, but mommy and/or daddy must explain the new situation to their child/ren.

When a child feels bad for their daddy leaving, the mommy and the daddy must come together and help the child/ren understand that they did NOTHING wrong. Again, taking time to explain things to the child/ren will help the child/ren see that they are not bad. Daddies might not be around during times when you believe that you need them.

God Always Loves Us

However, your Abba (Daddy) Father (God) will always be with you. He will always love you. He will help you though the rough transition into a human fatherless home.

Daddies do leave sometimes. Some of us never know this feeling of loss. However, many of us have had their daddy leave.

When a human daddy does not rely upon God (and even sometimes when they do), they might leave. When the daddy leaves, it usually leaves a hole in our hearts. It might make us question what is going to happen to me, my sister, my brother, or even my mommy.

It’s scary!

Scary Enough to Need God More

And there is nothing that we can do to stop this from happening. When we have no control over what happens in our lives, we revert to fear and trembling. However, the Bible states,

For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.
2 Timothy 1:7, NIV

His love and strength will get us through these tough times.

Children should not have to be burdened with such heartache. It is not fair. It harms their very core. However, there is something we can do to remedy this harm…

Call upon the LORD

He will never leave, nor forsake us. What this means is that even when we feel alone and scared, God is with us. His desire is that we find joy in Him. He did not want our daddies to leave either, but human daddies don’t always hear God.

This might seem too sad to understand, but God’s desire for us is to live inside of His joy. His joy does not rid us of tough times, but it makes those times a little bit easier to get through.

God is with Us

Our Father in heaven is always with us. He will guide us with His Holy Spirit, and He sent His only Son to save us. He LOVES us that much!

God is the almighty who does not force people to hear or even listen to Him. Not even daddies. When they leave, it’s usually because they have no communication with the Lord.

Some daddies might appear to be listening to the Lord, but as mentioned several times, they are simply human daddies and not our Father in heaven. Therefore, they fall short, as do all of us.

23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, 24 and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.
Romans 3:23-24, NIV

Our daddies obviously still love us, but they cannot always show it properly. Therefore, we must look to our Father in heaven to understand a true relationship between Abba (Daddy) and daughter. Abba (Daddy)and son.

This is the one true relationship that we can always count on. He is our Father in heaven. Not simply the daddy who could leave us because he and mommy are not getting along.

All of this applies both to sons and daughters of the Most High Father in heaven. We can enjoy His love every single day of our lives. Then, when we make it to heaven, for all eternity. I’m not saying that we should look forward to dying, but when we do, we will see Him face-to-face. This makes me feel that joy that we’ve been reading about.

Finding His Joy

Finding His joy does not mean that daddy will come home. We know that when daddy decides to leave, he needs to do something that we might never understand. However, when we pray for daddy (and mommy, of course) he will learn to hear the Holy Spirit and things in daddy’s life might get better too.

As little girls, we might have thought that daddy was our knight. As little boys, he might have been our hero. However, we need to give daddy a little bit of slack because he is only human, and he will struggle on earth.

Daddy Issues?

Fast forward to adulthood. Now we are adult men and women who still might appear to have daddy issues. Some of us might even have mommy issues. But remember that our Abba Father loves and cherishes us in the way that we expect our human daddies to care. 

No matter what happens to the relationship we have with our human daddies, we can always rely upon our heavenly Abba Father to be with us throughout our struggles and pain. Our daddies (and mommies) love us…

…but we need to remember that our Abba Father in heaven adores us.

He can be seen as our knight and hero.

Sharing His Love with Our Family

We can share this love with our family. We can learn to share this love with our children and grandchildren and then the heavenly unconditional love will continue for generations.

Generation after generation, God has proven His love for His children. He more than just cares. He sent His Son to die in our place. Again, He loves us!

Unconditional Love

His love has no conditions. His love has no end. His love is always available to us. We can rely upon His love for us to make it through the struggles and pain of growing up without our daddy (or mommy).

And His love does not falter when things get tough. We can always rely upon our Abba Father to love us…



Blessings and honor to you all from,

The Joy of Reading and Writing and Encouragement Takes Courage: Building Each Other Up in Him,
by: Christine C Sponsler M-Div, MA, CLC
Sponsler Ink and Christine’s Custom Coaching

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